Myths about divorce
Even if your marriage is unhappy, you should stick it out for the sake of the children.
Research has found that while parents’ unhappiness has a negative effect on children, so does divorce—and in fact children’s situation and outcomes are generally worse after divorce. However, it isn’t so much the divorce itself that seems to be harmful for children as the volatility and conflict in the family. What matters the most is the quality of your interactions with your child and how you handle conflict with your partner or ex in the presence of your child, whether you stay together or divorce.
If you become unhappy in your marriage, it will probably end in divorce eventually.
All marriages have their ups and downs, and many married people find that they are unhappy at some point. Being unhappy at certain points of your marriage does not necessarily mean that things can’t get better or that you will inevitably end up divorced.
It’s easy to make a mistake with your first marriage, but people mature and learn, so second marriages tend to be more successful.
While many people who divorce have successful subsequent marriages, the divorce rate of remarriages is actually higher than that of first marriages. Remarriages can be complicated if they involve blended families. Stepfamily relationships can put stress on a marriage.
Children who grew up in a home broken by divorce are less likely to divorce themselves because they’ve learned from their parents’ mistakes.
Children whose parents divorced actually have a higher rate of divorce than children from intact families. Even so, the majority of children from divorced backgrounds do not experience divorce themselves.
It is hard for a divorced woman to remarry.
According to a study done by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more than half of divorced women went on to marry within five years; three-quarters within 10 years.